The detachment forces God to love me.

As for me, I praise detachment more than all love. I have this reason: in love, the best thing is that it forces me to love God, while detachment forces God to love me. However, it is much nobler to compel God to come to me than to strive to go to God, because God can enter me with much greater intimacy and connect with me better than I could connect with Him...

(Master Eckhart OP /1260–1327/, Treatises)